Falling in love, such a wonderful feeling isn’t it? It paints the most vibrant colours in our lives but we must not forget that it exists together with pain. A friend of mine sent me a text message that states, “its hard to be in love again after a broken heart because you no longer know how much to make the next one special because you made the last one so special thinking he’ll be your last…” After a relationship, one has to realize that the hardest part about it is not the breaking up, but actually the moving on. Telling somebody that the relationship is over is not as difficult as becoming fully aware of the fact that we get to start our life anew, without the things we are previously used to, like eating with the person you love, saying sweet nothings to one another and spending all the good memories you could possibly share with someone who means so much to you.
It’s even harder to date somebody else again, more so to eventually fall in love once more. The past experience has made it difficult to learn how to trust, to tell someone your dreams and fears, and to become vulnerable with what the future has to bring. We become scared with the thought of trying to open up our hearts, which would eventually be scarred with lies and betrayals. I guess the best way in dealing with these situations is by: (1) learning to let go; (2) moving on; and (3) taking the risk.
Letting go may seem as the hardest part of loving one person. If you fall in love with one person and he also falls in love with you but then, love chooses to leave, don’t try to reclaim or assess blame. All the things in life are not meant to last because things change and so people do. You can never hold on to something forever. So just learn to live and let go. Remember that there’s a reason and meaning for everything that you can only know in time. You don’t choose love for love chooses you. All you can do is accept it all for it’s a mystery when it comes to your life.
Learn to move on. Take any pressure or expectations off yourself to get over it quickly. Take care and nurture yourself. Give yourself permission to relax, take it easy, and do whatever makes you feel better. You can also focus on your career or plan pleasurable activities with friends or family ahead of time (especially on weekends) to keep you busy and get your mind off the heartache.
And now, we can take the risk. But sometimes, we are afraid to do it. Maybe it’s because we have loved the wrong person and cried for the wrong reason. We must remember that no matter how things go wrong, we have to be sure of one thing… we must learn from our mistakes to find the right person whose meant for us so we will not be living our lives asking “what if” and telling ourselves “if only.”
In order for one to be able to do this, he has to remember how good it feels to love and to be loved in return. It is then that one is able to live a new life. If one is able to see the beauty of what love brings, then one is more or less ready to take that chance again.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
1 comment:
Man is destined to be happy. Hurdles are meant to strengthen the spirit to appreciate the level of happiness we have achieved so far despite all failings.
True love should exceed all definitions set by fairytales and Hollywood films. It should not be sugar-coated with moods and fancy visuals which influence love with temporary feelings of hysteria.
Love should go beyond attraction. It must embrace commitment that no matter what, the feeling prevails and nurtures as time goes by. As another blog says, the waist may thicken and hair may grow grey, all you have later are humorous stories to tell and a lasting connection physical attraction could possibly offer over a period of time.
Have we ask Destiny, who let our paths inter twined, the love everyone dreamed of? The Ingredient most happy-ever-after love stories fail to include.
May your readers find the love ever-lasting!
Post a Comment